So I was having yet another fruitful conversation with my mother about my current employment status (read this as a lecture on having no job) and she said something that made me want to go full on ghetto on her, like seriously I had to stop myself from saying "Oh no you diiiiddddnn'tttt"
Anyway, she said to me, "You know I think maybe you need to put horses on hold for a while, until things are straightened out."
For me, the girl who lived and breathed horses, from the woman who started that obsession that was a bit hair raising. I mean I get I am not going to be able to compete at the World Championship anytime soon, but that doesn't mean I have to give up on my passion.
After letting my inner black girl simmer I realized that she was right, I am not in a position financially or time wise to commit to my sport. But what Momma fails to realize is just because I have re prioritized doesn't me cutting out entirely.
With my new life I have found a way to make horses and being a big kid mesh. I volunteer my time in exchange for lessons, I lease instead of own and I recycle my old show clothes with a bit of good old fashioned crafting.
But this isn't just about me and my horses, whenever anyone graduates they are forced to take their entire world from past 4+ years and turn it on it's head. We go from nightlife to networking, from saying "but Daddy please" to please let this rent check clear.
It's awful, no one tells you how most of growing up sucks! But this is my challenge to you, grown up life doesn't have to be miserable. You just have to reignite, or rediscover your passions to make the most of your free time.
If you are a dancer, see if a local studio will let you teach beginner classes in exchange for lessons. And if you don't know what your passion is try to reinvent those things you did in college that you loved. Weather it is connecting with your senior sisters through an alumnae group; or taking your Franzia nights to a more upscale venue at the local winery.
There are lots of things you can do, weather you're in a new city, or trying to redefine life at home. Check out the website meetup.com, or Living Social, these are great ways to see if things are going on in your area or score a cheap chance to try something new.
I am now back on the job hunt, which is miserable and frustrating, but my time spent in the saddle and helping the little ones at the barn has helped me to realize that I can still enjoy the things I love. Remember what our favorite law school Barbie said "Endorphines make you happy!" If you're out their releasing those endorphines you're less likely to murder that obnoxious coworker, or your mother when she asks you something for the fifty billionth time.
Peace,Love&PostGrad
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